Parenting can seem like a slippery, slimy mess at times. When one is identifying with how their child is faring in the physical, it can become quite a jumbled mess here. Let’s distinguish here between you and your child or each of your children. This is a new person that you brought into the world but it is not who you are. It is not an extension of you, even though it feels like that with the amount of love that you feel toward this human being.
Let your child slip and fall literally and figuratively. How does one learn if they do not have mishaps to look back upon? Maybe your child has committed an atrocious act as a teen or adult. Do you see here when you distinguish yourself from your offspring, you are no longer identifying here. This is not something that you need to make amends for. Each has their own contrast they are stepping up over as part of their evolvement.
Let’s look at the opposite side of the coin here, shall we? Let’s say your child has accomplished much and you feel so very proud of this individual. Once again here, if you are identifying with these achievements as your own, well, this will become a jumbled mess. No one will have a clean streak all of their days. Distinguish yourself from your children, no matter the age. Allow each to evolve at their own rate.
Allow each to feel proud of him or herself rather than gaining this from you. It is not healthy for one to always be living up to another’s expectation or to only feel proud of themself because another is proud of them. As you allow your child, no matter the age, to develop their own identity, this is letting you off the hook as well as them.
Children can often mimic how they were raised, the dynamics they had with one or both parental figures in relationships. You see, if you are raising your child up to always need your approval, well, that is what they will be looking for in a partner. That is a lot to live up to when one is aligning with another’s ego mind rather than their own soul.
Allow your child to listen to that small voice that comes from within. This is how one achieves alignment. Allow yourself this same opportunity. It will provide much peace as each goes within. This is a practice.
There is no underlying shame in this message that we are delivering through Joy’s lips. This is meant to uplift the masses, to help each practice their own vibratory stance to obtain alignment and allow divine healing.